Posted by Karen (202.166.126.227) on February 27, 2003 at 11:40:00:
Hi Elder Yong.. I've been listening to Rev Tong preach about the issue about marriage for the past 3 sermons.. In his 2nd sermon, he mentioned quite a bit about pre-marital sex, citing example about the spiritual young couple.. well.. coincidentally, one of the youth in my church came up to me one day and asked me this qs which i don't really know what's the right way to answer her..
Well..about 2 yr ago,she used to be in love with this boy in her previous church, to a point that they commited pre-marital sex, and she subsequently got pregnant. The boy later arranged for her to go for an abortion. And a few months after the abortion, the boy dumped her.
She was so upset, she wanted to commit suicide, but God drew her back to Him. She told me she has confessed her sins to God and she knows clearly GOd has forgiven her. She has been zealously serving in my church as one of the committee members in the Youth Fellowship for almost a year and i have no doubt that God has forgiven her and is going to use her greatly.I see great potential in her, being able to manage her studies, family and church. And she's studying a prestigious course in NUS too.
But recently, she told me she's just got attached to this christian guy from her school. She told me she truly love the guy alot, and the guy treats her very nicely too. They'll pray and read the bible together from time to time. But she told me there's a part in her that makes her feel guilty to her present boyfriend. She don't know whether to tell her boyfriend about her past, and she's afraid if she told him, he'll dump her.
So ELder Yong, what do you think i should advise her? Part of me thinks that this sin she committed in the past had already been forgiven by God, just as far as the east is from the west. And there's no point bringing it up again, just as long as she keeps the present relationship pure and holy before God. But yet, there's another part of me which thinks that maybe she shouldn't cheat her present boyfriend. So Elder Yong, please enlighten me, because i really don't want to give the wrong advice to her as i know i have to be answerable to God too.
Thank you!